Chapter One - What Is A Cuckold?
Chapter Two - What Cuckolds Want
Chapter Three - What Cuckolding Wives Want
Chapter Four - The Tall Dark Stranger Syndrome
Chapter Five - Strict Wives-More than A Dose of Humiliation
Chapter Six - Orgasm Denial and Chastity
Chapter Seven - Sissification
Chapter Eight - What Bulls (Lovers, Studs, Masters, Real Men) Want
Chapter Nine - Is Bigger Better?
Chapter Ten - Is More Merrier?
Chapter Eleven - Is Black Sweeter?
Chapter Twelve - Having Lover's Baby
Chapter Thirteen - Love and Jealousy
Chapter Fourteen - There's No Turning Back

Chapter 6

Orgasm Denial and Chastity

"A chastity device is a must to the man who cannot control his rebellious habit. By limiting his sexual relief to only once or twice a month you will ensure that he will stay focused on serving you and obeying you." (Dominant Woman)

"Giving a man too many orgasms is a mistake a lot of dominant women make. Keep him aroused and frustrated and you will have a man who is willing to please." (Dominant Woman)

"Long-term chastity is so beneficial to the woman, every woman should give it a try. If you want to improve your cuck's attitude, if you want a more worshipful sissy, if you want a more consistently subservient hubby, this far exceeds anything else I have every tried, including corporal punishment and various forms of humiliation." (Dominant woman)

Orgasm denial seems to go hand-in hand with cuckolding for most dominant women. For some it is the ultimate form of humiliation and sexual slavery. For others, humiliating hubby this way for Her sexual pleasure is a total power shift to the superior wife. One wife who does this said, "For the past fifteen years my husband has had zero orgasms through intercourse." She says She lets him enter Her about three times a year to let him feel what he is missing, saying, "I am always on top and he is not permitted to move a muscle." She says that She may remain still or give him a few humps but after a brief few minutes, "I pull off him and back into frustration he goes." She does allow him one or two orgasms per month, but they are always humiliating ones. For example, She says, "My favorite is to make him hump an inanimate object before another woman while I verbally degrade him."

Another woman puts Her husband in bondage before going out "so he can't touch himself." For variety, instead of tying him up She may give him a long list of chores and errands, which She says are even better than bondage. Then, if She brings Her Lover home She goes into Her house before Her Lover and ties hubby to his bed wearing panties, a butt plug, and a chastity device and leaves his door open so he can hear the sounds of Her enjoying Her Lover. Sometimes She ties him up and makes him watch, but She always has him clean Her with his tongue and worship Her body. Her hubby says that hearing the sounds of his wife fucking another man is the most erotic experience of his life.

Orgasm denial can, in itself, lead to cuckolding by a dominant woman. One dominant woman who sexually denies Her husband, but allows him a humiliating supervised release twice a month (usually cumming on Her anus and licking it up) said, "I was craving a hard and able cock." She made hubby buy Her a sexy anklet to announce Her availability at Her workplace and finally cuckolded him with a tall, handsome, co-worker.

Even though they are cut off from sex with their wife, hubbies who are allowed to masturbate freely are still not under the sexual control of their wife. One hubby who was cut off from his wife for 8 months said, "During that time I masturbated and I believe that it took away the sexual power She had over me."

Chastity-locked up for good?

Some dominant wives take ultimate control of their hubby's sex life by keeping him in a locked chastity device. This not only insures that he is faithful but also enables Her to take control of his masturbation and orgasms. According to one dominant wife, chastity serves three purposes: 1) dominance and control, 2) preventing masturbation and sex, and 3) keeping his focus and interest on "You." She says, "When chastity is combined with cuckolding it is simply delicious and delightful." Wives know that cuckold hubbies are on their most submissive, attentive, and obedient behavior when they are kept in a constant state of maximum horniness.

A small penis is sometimes also a factor in cuckolding as well as chastity. As one small-endowed chastised hubby says, "My wife humiliates me by talking about my small penis that can't get Her off, and that is the reason She has it locked up and has sex with men who have real cocks."

The benefits of chastity are numerous. One hubby said, "It gives me comfort to know that if I were tempted by another woman there would be nothing I could do about it-it gives me a sense of security." One wife said about Her hubby, "Once he started wearing a chastity device his whole attitude toward me changed." She says that She loves the fact that "his attention and desires have reverted back to the days we were first dating." A sissy hubby said that he was a "confirmed masturbator" who had to do it daily and that he was so addicted that "I don't think I could have stopped masturbating unless there was no way." His wife locked him into a really secure chastity so he wouldn't have to rely on his own "weak will." Another wife said that Her girlfriends were envious of Her "well-mannered, caring, and sensitive" hubby. She said that they didn't realize that She kept him in a chastity device and that they could do the same thing to their hubbies too. She said, "Once you hold the keys you have the power to ensure he remains loving, loyal, and respectful to you always."

How do chastised hubbies spell relief? Many chastised hubbies only get relief when their wife (or Her Lover) decides they deserve it, so they must be on their best behavior at all times. Some women may deny their hubbies relief for a long time-weeks, months, even a year-and use "milking" techniques to prevent excess semen build-up. Others may release their hubbies periodically-once or twice a month-and allow them to masturbate as a reward or for entertainment-sometimes making them eat and swallow their own cum afterwards.

Some wives experienced with chastity believe that hubby should never be allowed to touch himself again-especially if he has been addicted to masturbation. They believe that he should become dependent on Her for that pleasure. To effectively accomplish this a dominant wife may take the clever, but frustrating, precaution of restraining Her hubby when releasing him. One wife who does this teases Her hubby unmercifully with latex gloves on, and extracts promises from him as She repeatedly takes him to the brink of orgasm for as many times and as long as She wants. Afterwards, She feeds him his cum if She allowed him to orgasm, and then locks the chastity device back on him while he is still restrained-thus keeping him either locked or restrained at all times. This guarantees that he eats his cum and prevents him from ever touching his cock again (now "Her cock" she says!).

Most wives hold the chastity key themselves, perhaps wearing it around their neck or on their "I'm an available Hot Wife" ankle chain. A few wives, however, give custody of the chastity key to their Lover and leave the decision of how and when to provide release up to him. There are even a few who delight in finding a demanding gay or bi Lover for their non-gay hubby and give the key to him so hubby will have to beg his gay Lover for release! Of course, release is only given if hubby complies perfectly and enthusiastically with his new gay Lover's demands.

For the key-holder wife the main benefit is "the complete control She gains of Her hubby's sex life and orgasms." Fidelity isn't a question if hubby goes out with the boys or goes on a business trip. Masturbation is also brought to a halt except when permitted by the key holding wife. This makes Her hubby extra attentive and obedient. According to one wife, "I channel this pent-up energy into having him do household chores and spending extra time on oral sex."

One dominant wife makes Her husband sit at Her feet wearing only a tee shirt and a chastity device called "CB-2000." This is a very popular device made of hard plastic and even comes with plastic locks for going through metal detectors. She is the key holder and makes him wear it 24/7 and address all Her women friends as Miss or Ma'am. She says, "he is my houseboy now. It is such a joy to be relieved of household chores. He is learning to be a good houseboy." The downside though was that on those occasions when She released him from the chastity device for sex he would get so excited that he prematurely ejaculated, "sometimes before even entering me." She said that even though Her hubby was good at oral sex and used a vibrator on Her that sometimes "I crave to have a real penis in me." She also said that She sometimes wanted to feel submissive and vulnerable herself when making love and there was no way She could do that with Her submissive hubby. While She loved Her hubby, She said, "Sex with him was no longer satisfying." She decided it was best to cut him off from sex but allow him to jerk off once or twice a month. For Her own pleasure She now has a "girl's night out" with Her single girlfriends two or three times a month. For this She said, "I dress in the shortest black leather miniskirt I can find, with black pumps and sheer-to-the waist panty hose, with no panties underneath." She knows that She is a total knockout saying, "I work out regularly and have great legs and am in great shape. I feel very sexy." Other than his monthly jerk-off periods, Her hubby must remain locked "at all times," while, as She says, I have the right to have sex with other men as often as I want." Her hubby's purpose: "to serve and obey me."

As this woman found initially, cutting a husband off from sex and putting him in a chastity device can have a negative effect on a wife's sex life. This easily leads to cuckolding. As one dominant woman who also locks Her hubby into a CB-2000 chastity device 24/7 and only lets him out once a month for supervised masturbation said, "I need a sex life." Now, She dates regularly and has eight to ten sexual encounters per month, while "hubby gets zero."

A chastity tube combined with a penis piercing is considered by many to be the most secure and reliable form of chastity. It completely prevents erections, masturbation, and cannot be removed. One wife got Her hubby a "Prince Albert" piercing (a ring through the tip and underside of the penis) and locked him into a device called "Lori's Chastity Tube", which was designed by a dominant woman for that purpose. She had Her newly chastised hubby buy a plane ticket for Her Lover so he could cuckold him on Her birthday as his birthday gift to Her.

Another dominant wife not only had Her hubby's penis pierced so She could put him in a chastity device that "he will not be able to remove," but She also tattooed Her name along the top of his penis. She has only allowed him oral sex for the past two years and is looking for other men to date and cuckold him with.

Dominant wives with experience in chastity often recommend a gradually increasing schedule for relief starting with about once a week, assuming they are happy with hubby that week. (If they are not happy, they extend it so hubby gets the message that relief is based on Her happiness for the week). After doing it for a week for a while they may extend it to 10 days, then 2 weeks, then once a month. Many also recommend that hubby not be allowed to play with himself at all, even to masturbate. They say this is a good opportunity to "deal with issues." They sit him down with his hands tied or cuffed behind his back and tease and play with him, and remind him of his duties and extract promises and loving comments from him. If and when he is allowed to cum, She may feed him his cum and lock him back into the chastity before uncuffing his hands.

Another wife, who had been cuckolding Her hubby for over 22 years, says that She gets best results from chastity when She lets Her hubby have his relief after watching Her with Her Lovers. She says, "I have found that he is more attentive to my needs as well as to my Lover's needs when he knows he will get some sort of sexual relief at the end." Of course, She and Her Lovers have devised some "very degrading ways" for slave hubby to get his sexual relief including, "dirty laundry, shoes, pillows, and blow-up sheep." Other humiliating ways some wives use to allow their hubbies relief is to force hubby to masturbate in front of one or more woman friends for their entertainment, or being "raped" by a strap-on dildo until they cum.

Does chastity really work? Maybe it's not for everyone, but one chastised hubby said, "The longer I was locked up the more aroused and obedient I was to Her. I began to desire to worship Her body all the time. I would tongue Her ass and lick Her pussy for hours."

Though it is effective for most, on rare occasions enforced chastity does not always provide the desired effect, especially if a needy hubby is sexually neglected. One denied cuckold hubby said, "I felt She didn't care about me anymore." Even though She cuckolded him with Her Lover and let him give oral sex and clean up afterwards he said, "She didn't let me focus on the pleasures and delights of a woman." He ended up leaving Her for another dominant woman who also cuckolds him, but lets him give Her constant oral sex, clean up after Her Lovers, and even participate in "threesomes or more."

Castration-just a fantasy?

"The thrill in denying a man is to do it because you know he is aroused and frustrated. It would be far better to lock him in a chastity device [than to castrate him]. That way you can access his penis when you want to play with it or torture it or tease him." (Dominant woman)

Castration represents the ultimate sacrifice and control of hubby's sex life. In one stroke-pun intended-it feminizes him (by removing testosterone), and assures that he will not unfaithfully spread his seed (he has none to spread). It also guarantees that any children conceived by his wife come from sexual unions with Her Lover(s) and not from hubby. He may still have an erection (or even a "dry" orgasm) if his wife permits, though this will probably be rare. Castration reduces the need to control a man through a chastity device, but there are a few who no doubt do both for good measure and completeness. Even some in the medical profession report positive benefits to castration. They say it helps prevent prostate cancer and it may extend a man's life. Maybe with the use of Viagra, castration will become a more viable option for controlling cuckold hubbies.

However, there is a major downside to castration. It may take away the horniness and sexual arousal that is the basis for the excitement and motivation for most cuckolds. Maybe this is why it is just a fantasy for most.

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Here are some edited ad excerpts from chastity-loving cuckolds or women:

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From the polls:

CUCKOLDS: HOW MANY OF YOU HAVE BEEN CHASTISED?

In one poll, approximately 16% of those currently being cuckolded report being kept in chastity devices by their wives. These are typically a CB-2000 chastity device, but may also be a Club FEM MCD (Male Chastity Device), or a Lori's Chastity Tube. Many other devices are also available. They typically prevent erections (by making them painful) and make masturbation difficult, if not impossible. Interestingly, about 77% of all those in chastity were also currently being cuckolded, indicating a strong correlation between chastity and cuckolding. The bottom line is that if you are in a chastity device you are probably a cuckold.

SUBMISSIVE MALES: IS CHASTITY A REALITY OR FANTASY FOR YOU?

As might be expected in a group devoted to the chastity lifestyle, most (63%) said that chastity was a reality for them with many (40%) locked in a chastity device on a regular basis. For those men who are chastised, women are predominantly their key holders (74%) with most (58%) saying they are married with their wife as the key holder. A few (16%) said their key holder is a man. This could be their wife's Lover, for example, or perhaps a gay Lover whom their wife makes them serve.

CUCKOLDS: DO YOU HAVE A CASTRATION FANTASY?

Most cucks (54%) who answered this question said yes, they do have a castration fantasy, but it was only a fantasy. A few (15%) said it was their wives who fantasized about it for them. There were a few cucks (15%) who said they really wanted it or that their wife was insisting on it, and a few (15%) said that his wife's Bull was "suggesting it for me." One cuck said that he wanted it, his wife was insisting on it, and Her Bull was suggesting it. I guess he's going to get it.

DOMINANT WIVES: WHY DO YOU CHASTISE YOUR HUBBY?

The number one reason dominant wives said they chastised their hubbies was to "prevent masturbation" with number two close behind at increasing his frustration so he would "pay more attention to Her." With about half as many votes, the next most cited two reasons were "getting him to do things he normally wouldn't do" and "humiliating him." In last place with only a few votes was "preventing adultery."

DOMINANT WIVES: WHAT IS THE BEST WAY TO PREVENT HUBBY FROM SPREADING HIS SEED?

Most wives (52%) said castration was the best method to stop hubby from spreading his seed. Many, however, (33%) preferred vasectomy, or chastity (14%). Medication or tight clothes was not preferred by any.

CUCKOLDS: HOW LONG DOES YOUR WIFE DENY YOU PENETRATIVE SEX?

For those cuckolds who are denied penetrative sex with their wife, many (33%) are cut off somewhere between 3-12 months, with some (22%) only cut off around 1-3 months. Most, however, (44%) seem to be denied for years: 5, 10, or even longer.

WIVES: WHY DO YOU KEEP YOUR HUBBY IN CHASTITY?

Most (56%) who do this said that "controlling hubby's sexual activities" was the main reason for keeping him in a chastity device. Many (22%) said they did it to "show female ownership of his manhood, and some (11%) said they did it "because he masturbates too much."

CUCKOLDS: DO YOU LIKE WEARING A CHASTITY DEVICE?

Most (67%) cuckolds said they are "very excited" by the prospect of wearing a chastity device and not being allowed to cum without permission. However, consistent with other polls, only some (27%) actually wear one. Of those who wear one, most (75%) said they can go about a week while many (50%) can go for a month.

WIVES: DO YOU LET HUBBY CUM INSIDE YOU BEFORE YOU DATE YOUR LOVER?

Most wives (83%) said no, they do not let their hubby cum inside them prior to cuckolding them. The majority (51%) said they like to tease him while he eats Her pussy to get Her aroused for Her Lover. Many (23%) allow no sexual contact at all, while a few (8%) do allow him to enter Her but not to cum. Some (17%) do allow it to get "warmed up" for their Lovers.

WIVES: DOES DENYING HUBBY MAKE HIM HORNIER?

An overwhelming 72% say yes, that it makes hubby hornier and that She takes advantage of it often. A few (16%) said it does make him hornier, but they "don't like to be cruel," and slightly fewer (12%) said they either haven't noticed, or that denying him has the opposite effect and "makes him go off sex."

CUCKOLDS: SHOULD ALL MALES BE CASTRATED WHEN WOMEN CAN REPRODUCE BY GENETIC ENGINEERING?

Most (73%) said yes, that males should be castrated. Of these, many (32%) said that most-except for breeders kept "just in case"-should be castrated when young, while an equal number (33%) said, "only rebellious and small-dicked males should be castrated." A few (8%) who said yes, also said that "well-hung Black males" should be kept for "pleasure purposes." Some (31%) said no, "males are better slaves when they are not castrated."

CUCKOLDS: WHAT KIND OF CHASTITY SYSTEM IS BEST?

Most (35%) chose "chastity belt on wife's date nights, honor system the rest of the time" as the best approach. Many (29%) said that "partial castration-balls only" works best. A few (6%) said that a "full castration-removing dick and balls" was best. None said the honor system where "he promises to never get hard and cum," knowing that would be a promise they couldn't keep.

CHASTISED CUCKOLDS: WHAT IS THE MOST HUMILIATING WAY TO GET ORGASMIC RELIEF?

The most frequent (27%) choice was "being raped by my wife and Her friends." With "being forced to masturbate in front of a group of women" a close number two (24%). If orgasm was not allowed then other major humiliations included "being Her toilet slave" (13%), "eating Her out after sex" (12%), "stripped, whipped, and spanked in public" (6%), "body and foot worship of wife and friends (6%), "being forced to dress in female clothing" (2%), "being treated like a dog" (2%).

CUCKOLDS AND WIVES: WHEN SHOULD A CHASTISED CUCKOLD HUBBY BE RELEASED FOR ORGASM?

The choice with the most (25%) responses was "2-10 times a year is more than enough to keep him docile and eager to please." Twice a month was the favorite (17%) choice. Many (14%), however, said that hubby should get to cum as a reward "only when his wife gets fucked by Her Lover." This would tie his pleasure to Hers and give him incentive to encourage Her to fuck Her Lover(s). Quite a few (13%) said that monthly was the best schedule and that a month was "already difficult for most men." Some (16%) were more restrictive saying once or twice on his birthday or special occasions, and a few (9%) even said "never-once it's on it never comes off." The last choice (7%) was weekly, indicating that orgasmic release should not be too frequent.

CHASTISED CUCKOLDS: DOES YOUR WIFE FORCE YOU TO SWALLOW YOUR CUM?

Most (42%) said yes, that She always insists that he swallow his cum. Some (28%) said "occasionally" for amusement, and some others (19%) said only once or twice "to humor Her." A few (11%) said, "Never, I wouldn't do it."

DOMINANT WIVES: HOW DO YOU "MILK" YOUR CHASTISED HUBBY?

Most (45%) said they just use their finger to do this, but many (27%) like to use an "anatomically correct" dildo. A few use a vibrator (9%). Some (18%) said they use their fist-ouch!

CHASTISED CUCKOLDS: HOW DO YOU LIKE TO BE TIED UP FOR MILKING?

Most (63%) said they prefer being bound spread-eagled on a flat surface like a bed or a table with their hands apart tied to opposite bedposts. Some (20%) said they liked being bound spread-eagled in an upright position-for example, against the wall. A few (7%) said they preferred a seated position, with hands bound behind his back.

CUCKOLDS: HOW SHOULD A CUCKOLD'S COCK AND BALLS BE DEALT WITH?

Most (62%) cuckolds said it would be sufficient to totally shave his cock and balls to show his submission and inferiority. A "chastity piercing" was considered by many (23%) to be best, probably because it is more secure and reliable. A few (15%) said the best treatment was a chastity belt. Both of the later also require shaving, however, so in the poll most, if not all, cuckolds would have their cock and balls shaved.

Next time: "Sissification"

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