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11-19-2008, 03:15 PM
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My boyfriend and I enjoy including black men in our sex lives, but there is no way in the world I would dump him for anyone. He's certainly not a wimp, and is just as good a lover to me as any of the black men we've been involved with. It's not about black superiority or any of that adolescent fantasy stuff for us, it's about doing something we both enjoy as an extension of our own sex life.
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11-19-2008, 05:47 PM
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Thank you.
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 Thanks for the voice of reason sweet.
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11-24-2008, 08:23 PM
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Just my 2c worth
My wife had always had a hidden desire to try black, I just helped her along. We still love each other very much but now she gets something I could never give her.
I have a blog on it if your interested: Only registered users can view hyperlinks.
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12-24-2008, 10:42 AM
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It's inevitable that IR sex will spread throughout the country. I mean just look how it's taking off, everywhere, from Hollywood movies to couples in grocery stores, to affairs at work, marriages and kids. Websites galore catering to black men hooking up with white women. White men need to get their minds right. It's inevitable, it's reparations' it's opposites attracting, it's their physical and sexual dominance. White men should cooperate with their wives, show understanding and sensitivity. Avoid ridiculous anger/jealousy. Stay calm and learn to appreciate change, the new experience and the rewards of having their wives drawn to black men for sexual fulfillment. It's "Change We Women Need" and "Yes, We Will"! Be supportive and reap the benefits. If ya can't lick em, join em (and lick) boys! LOL.
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12-24-2008, 11:23 AM
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My husband allows me to go with black men. He is not a wimp, does not clean up. It is strictly for the sex. He is just as good as the men that we play with. It is not about reparations, or cause I owe someone, or to be dominated. I do it cause it is hot. Nothing wilder than educated black men having sex with me while my husband takes the pics or vids. He does engage in sex with us also.
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12-24-2008, 12:26 PM
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Topic for discussion: if you take the next step, should you be fully prepared to lose your wife to a strong, hung black man?
If she did leave you for a black man who could give her more sexual pleasure than you could, would it actually make you respect her more? Would it be the ultimate fantasy, knowing that she chose a black man over you? For the women on the board, would you get into a situation knowing that the right black man would make you leave your husband? Is this a fantasy? To be taken away from a white man by a strong sexually superior black man?[/QUOTE] People seem to be beating around the bush a bit. You didnt ask if entertaining black men was necessarily going to lead to losing the woman- you asked if man should go into it prepared for the possibility. Not everyone is a sissy or anything close BUT anyone that enters a lifestyle that involves their wife having sex with other men (presumably superior sex) had better have ran through all the possible scenerios in their head or they could end up facing hell. For many- probably most- this is nothing more than recreation BUT it does in fact happen that a white lady goes black and "realizes" she cannot do with out. How often that occurs I havent got a clue but no one knows until after it happens so no one should run around acting like "not to me it wont"
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12-27-2008, 06:04 PM
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I mean, I can see someone wanting it to happen if they're in a bad relationship and they're looking for an excuse to end it without coming off as the one to blame; you could just use "the mythical sexual power of the black man" as the reason for the relationship's failure rather than placing the blame where it really lies. But other than that, you are correct that no couple goes into something like this wanting the woman to leave the man for a black men, but these things do happen. There's always a risk, even if it is a "vanilla" swinger relationship, that the woman could revel in her newfound freedom with a lover that could fulfill her fantasies and never want to go back. So even if both partners now say, "Oh, no. That would never happen to us", what if it did? There is a risk every time a woman climbs into a new man's bed that the new man will pull some trigger, pluck the invisible heartstrings, give her an orgasm that releases some brain chemical that drives her forever into his arms. I mean, by saying that something like that could NEVER happen, aren't you relegating the black man to the role of a sex toy that could never ever have any effect on the woman's emotions or desires and loosen the bonds of her current relationship? That's a dangerous assumption to make. Yes, for most people this would be a bad thing, but I think there may also be some complex emotions involved.
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12-27-2008, 07:12 PM
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Her boyfriend can't exercise any "pull" if, as 'mhall' said, your marriage, and family life, is what it ought to be. Finding a white woman who likes black men is easy; a good husband who gets off on seeing her needs met more fully, by the man of her choice, is hard to come by. She has it good and knows it. And as long as I get to watch every so often, everyone's happy.
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12-29-2008, 10:30 PM
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Actually, if you are serving your Wife well and keeping Her happy, you shouldn't need to worry about losing Her at all.
A Woman needs more than one man to satisfy all of Her needs. The cuckold husband, if he is submissive to his Wife and genuinely exists for Her happiness, becomes virtually indispensible to Her and will always hold his place in Her heart. She will always appreciate all he does for Her, especially understanding Her need for the excitement and sexual pleasures She enjoys with Her lovers. Their love together is one of a deep emotional bonding and dedication to each others needs and security. Her lovers provide the Wife the extreme sexual and romantic excitement a Woman needs to satisfy Her ego, Her sense of desirability and the primal desires She can no longer enjoy with Her husband as his submission makes him less of a challenge. A lover cannot steal Her away as She knows he would never permit Her to enjoy Herself with other lovers, nor would he serve all of Her needs as Her husband does. Unless, of course the lover becomes submissive to Her and then finds himself cuckolded as well. We males all serve our Women in our various capacities, some as loving, submissive husbands, some as virile seductive lovers. Learning to respect each others roll in Her life will not only help the relationships to work smoothly, but will also help each to obtain the maximum enjoyment of their own position. willsrvu
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01-31-2009, 08:24 PM
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A cuckold knows the risk, and "yes, he should be prepared to lose his wife because he wants the best outcome for his wife, her happiness is above his".
Few wives would ditch a cuckold, because he encourages her to have as much sex as she deserves and craves and has energy for. A macho husband won't let her have extra-marital sex - and she could secretly wishing she was married to a cuckold instead.
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